Good morning, everyone.
Sadly, my lovely Dad passed away early yesterday afternoon in hospital. John was there and he said it was quiet, peaceful and gentle. Just slower, shallower breaths and a final exhale.
I didn't get to the hospital in time but that's OK. I had a 'feeling' about it and said goodbye to him in my heart as well as out loud on Thursday when he was settled in the ward. He was so glad that I had stayed with him through that day and I was so glad to have been able to.
I'm feeling numb at the moment with sadness around the edges. I've been through his mailbox, letting people know and answering queries.
John goes back to the hospital for all the paperwork on Monday. I will probably be coming home. The next few months will be shared between time at home and time here at Dad's, getting the place sorted out. It will be a while before it can be put on the market now so there's time.
He was lovely, my Dad was; brave, kind, generous and a truly gentle man. He had a fantastic life. He had great experiences, work that he loved, time to indulge in his passions of aeroplanes (at second hand, not actually in the air) and gardening. He found his soulmate in Mum and, when she passed, he carried on courageously but the spark had somehow gone. He only survived her for just over two years.
And he was my best mate.
I’m so very sorry Joy. I’m glad it was peaceful and that he had your brother with him. xxReplyDelete
Sorry to hear this news; it’s been clear what a warm relationship you had with him. He sounds like a very special man. You can be glad that you have done so much for him and visited him so often, especially since your mum died. It’s going to be a busy time ahead, look after yoursel.ReplyDelete
So sorry Joy but glad that he had a gentle death with your brother beside him.ReplyDelete
He sounds like a lovely, gentle man in the old fashioned sense and I’m sure many people have felt better for knowing him.
Now is your time to take a deep breath and allow yourself time to remember him and your mum with love and gratitude.
Take care of yourself.
I'm so sorry, Joy. You always spoke of your dad with complete admiration and affection. He sounds like a wonderful man.ReplyDelete
Sending love to you and your family. X
What a lovely tribute, Joy. I'm so glad you got to spend that one last day with him. Sending love and hugs, as always xxReplyDelete
I am very sorry.You wrote nice worlds about your father.Take care and look after yourself and your family.A lot of love for you.ReplyDelete
Sorry to hear your sad news Joy. Glad your Dad could enjoy his independence almost to the end of his life and then just peacefully skip away. Take some time to care for yourself now for a while. Thoughts are with you all.ReplyDelete
lol - if I know my Dad, he was probably skipping inside!! xxDelete
I'm so sorry to hear this Joy. You always spoke of him with such love and affection, and pride in the man he was. Thinking of you and all your family xxReplyDelete
So sorry to hear your sad news. Love and hugs xxReplyDelete
Dear Joy, so glad that you have so many good memories to hold onto that can sustain you. I sometimes think people pick their time to leave.Your Dad lived an independent and full life and it does seem that he didn't live with a long painful decline. I hope that you get some rest for yourself xxReplyDelete
So,so sorry to read that your Dad has passed away.You and he seemed such good mates.This will leave a huge hole in your life but fill it with happy memories of past times.BarbaraxReplyDelete
So sorry to hear that your beloved Dad has passed away. It sounds like you had a very special relationship with him and will have lots of wonderful memories to treasure. Look after yourself in the coming days and weeks. Take care xxReplyDelete
So sorry Joy I know that this will be a busy time but do take some time for yourself.ReplyDelete
So sorry to read this Joy. After the years of being so independent it would have been hard for him to not be able to manage.ReplyDelete
Sending you and the family a huge ((hug).
Joy, I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad always seemed like such a lovely man to us. Take care and be kind to yourself.ReplyDelete
So very sorry Joy. xReplyDelete
Dear Joy, I can only say how sorry I am for you and your family. Sending much love xReplyDelete
Beautiful heart felt words Joy! Very sorry to hear of your loss! I am so very glad though his passing was "gentle". Your sweet memories will always be the tribute to such a wonderful man. Take care Amanda xReplyDelete
I'm so sorry Joy. You're Dad sounded like such a lovely man and how wonderful for you to have such happy memories. Jane xxReplyDelete
So sorry, Joy. Your father sounds like a wonderful man.ReplyDelete
Prayers and sympathyReplyDelete
I was thinking of you this morning and wondered if this had happened so soon after your mom. How old was your dad?
He was 92. xxDelete
So sorry to hear the news about your lovely Dad, I'm glad to hear that it was peaceful at the end. Thinking of you, big hugs.ReplyDelete
Sorry haven't commented for a long, long time, I read every day but problems with logging on on a change of device have only just been partially resolved, somehow I can't publish as VeeKnits, only as anonymous. Will try to resolve that. (First world problems!)
Your father sounded such a lovely man, you must have many happy memories, hope they are some comfort. Vee x
I'm so sorry for your loss Joy, but so happy that you were lucky enough to have such an amazing Dad and such a lovely strong relationship. XxxxReplyDelete
Prayers for you and your family, and may your memories bring you peace with your loss.ReplyDelete
I’m so sorry to hear of the passing of your dear dad. Remember the good times and take care of yourself. 💜ReplyDelete
Dear Joy, so sorry to here that your lovely Dad has passed; sending much love and strength to you xxxReplyDelete
A peaceful way to go--with your brother, having had a last day with you. Still very hard...no matter the age. His or yours. Take care of yourself. Thinking of you and the family--sending those thoughts across the Pond. Good memories will keep him and your Mum alive in your heart always.ReplyDelete
I'm so sorry, Joy, for your loss. You describe your Dad in such a beautiful way and I feel I know him through you. May you feel God's peace today and in the days ahead. Take some time to rest now. You have been a wonderful daughter.ReplyDelete
So so sad to hear your lovely Dad has passed away Do hope all your lovely memories of him give you some comfort. Please try to look after yourself my thoughts and prayers for you and your familyReplyDelete
Please accept my sincere condolences on the death of your father. I'm glad for him, and you, that your brother was with him when he died, and that his death was peaceful.ReplyDelete
Please take care of yourself, and don't worry about blogging, unless you want to.
Sorry to hear your sad news. Always very hard when we lose a parent, and your Dad obviously was a lovely man from your writings. You have wonderful memories to reflect on. XXXXXReplyDelete
I am so sorry Joy that your Dad has died and he had a peaceful end. It was lovely that you had such a good relationship together which comes though with the way you use to talk about your Dad and these memories will help you in the days ahead. Keep safe and your family.ReplyDelete
Bless you Joy! Through your blog, I came to know how much you and your family members loved your dad and your dad loved you all. You were a wonderful and caring daughter to him and I know he knew how lucky he was to have you as his daughter. I am truly sorry for your loss.ReplyDelete
I'm so sorry for your loss Joy, please accept my sincere condolences. I hope the memories you have of him bring you comfort in the days to come.ReplyDelete
Oh Joy love. I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. I'm sending you a very gentle hug. xReplyDelete
Dear Joy, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad’s passing. I’m keeping you and your family in my prayers.ReplyDelete
I'm so very sorry to hear this. You sound so brave and yet your heart must be in pieces. It's a very special relationship, that of father and daughter, and yours sounds like one that you will treasure and carry you for the rest of your life.ReplyDelete