Thank you for your lovely, understanding comments regarding decluttering the possessions of loved ones. I think with all decluttering, there's a sense of loss - after all, I must have wanted it at some point.
I try to think . .
Why did I get this in the first place? Does that reason still hold water?
Do I really love this - if so, why? Is it the attached memories or is it something else.
Is it beautiful? If so, why? Would it be better if someone else could find it beautiful too.
Do I use/wear this. Will I ever use/wear it again. Do I have something else that fulfils the same purpose? If so, which one do I prefer?
It's still not easy but it helps to apply a bit of reasoning.
Yesterday I . . .
made four loaves, two for Beth and two for Lindsey
got the ironing done and everything put away
tidied a superficially very untidy kitchen
weeded a bit (before the rain came)
took Beth's loaves round to her and had a good old chat
the usual reading, telly and crochet
boxed and wrapped a parcel for posting today - it took longer than I expected
Today is Kay-day. Excellent. I need to sort a few things out before popping over to Lindsey's for circuits and Kay will arrive shortly after I get home, all being well.
I have a load of whites to wash and, hopefully, line dry but I haven't looked at the weather forecast yet so we will see.
I have a load of whites to wash and, hopefully, line dry but I haven't looked at the weather forecast yet so we will see.
And a bit more sorting things out for Crete. Woohoo. Eight days to go!
Have a lovely Monday, everyone. xx
Re comments yesterday about love one’s passing. When my sister died I could not get the image of her over the last few months of her life out of my head. A friend suggested that I chose a day that we had enjoyed together (a day at a garden centre when we laughed together so very much). Every time the image of her last few months came into my head I was to push it out to allow the garden centre day to come in. It helped me enormously, I hope it may help others here too. Sending love to those in the situation I was once in. Thank you Joy for this blog we are a lovely friendly bunch and that is down to you. June
ReplyDeleteLovely comment, June
DeleteOh, bless you, thanks so much, June. I am very fortunate that everyone who comments is so very kind and understanding - apart from the spammy stuff, of course!
DeleteWhat excellent advice from your friend. I will remember that, thank you. xx
That's a really good set of reasonings, Joy. xx
ReplyDeleteOh sorry, that's me, Sooze x
DeleteThanks, Sooze. They work for me anyway. xx
DeleteAgree with Sooze, what a lovely comment from June x
ReplyDeleteAlison in Devon x
It was really lovely. xx
DeleteLovely comment from June. I am going to remember it. Not long and you will be on the way to Crete.
ReplyDeleteGod bless.
It was, and so very helpful too. It's really going to help the way I remember my Mum - and, if truth be told my late-ex too. Thank you again, June.
DeleteThis time next week, Diane and I will be in the taxi heading for Gatwick. Yay!
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What a great idea the first commenter had. I still struggle with not being there in those last days with the whole covid thing and being in quarantine. It's been almost five years and I still struggle with those last few months.
ReplyDeleteRegarding possessions, we are trying to tell ourselves that it's better for someone else to get use out of x and enjoy it rather than it sitting in our house gathering dust.
It's good and very, very helpful. I will remember it, for sure.
DeleteCovid was so hard for you (and others). You did what you could, try to hold on to that. xx